We judge, in haste, instantly and deliberately.
We judge other people, ourselves, and all actions, events, and behaviors present in our lives.
There are, however, two sides to the story of judging. Let me explain.
And then some more judging.
It’s all around us. We all do it.
And we’re all told NOT to do it.
It is ‘wrong’.
We must refrain from judging, lest we ourselves are judged.
We will be judged by the same yardsticks, the same measures we use to judge others.
“Stop judging,” we’re told.
We should tolerate all. Be patient, kind and forgiving. Let us be ourselves. Let others be themselves. Let it all be the way it is.
We should accept.
Well, it makes no sense whatsoever to me.
Judging means (according to Google): To form an opinion or conclusion about; to decide a case in a court of law; to give a verdict on someone in a court of law. It also means: to decide, determine, consider, believe, think, deem, view, deduce, gather, infer, gauge, tell, see, say, estimate, assess, guess, surmise, conjecture, regard as, hold, see as, look on as, take to be, rate as, rank as, class as, count, reckon, figure, guesstimate.
When we consider the words above, it’s very clear to see that we do all these things.
All. The. Time.
We are, after all, human.
So when judging comes into play, I think it’s important that we DO it.
There are excellent reasons to judge, as this is the way we:
- decide between positive and negative
- beautiful and ugly
- between good and evil
- between desirable and undesirable
How on earth can we grow and develop in character and personality if we never make up our minds on what is attractive, beneficial, advantageous and useful to us?
We develop and expand by knowing:
- What we stand for
- What we want to be known for
- What our best values are
- What our morals and ethics are
- What our integrity is based on
- What our ideals are
- How we will be significant
- How to live a life of meaning
We can under no circumstances do, be, decide or act on anything at all if we make no judgments on what we find around us.
Thus the judging dictum seems to hold true in different ways than at first is apparent.
I think you should judge to find your way in a confusing world.
Do not judge in order to shame, belittle, demean, degrade, humiliate, discredit, debase or dishonor.
Do not be condescending, superior or patronizing in your judgments.
Refuse to be prideful, haughty, a snob or ever look down on others.
Be dignified, loving, warm and kind, and judge only with the intention of finding the truth.
Judge only to find more suitable and fitting ways, to form better habits, to find the quality and value in that which surrounds you.
Judge to help and support.
Judge to keep safe and be protected.
Judge to form baselines and criteria, in order to innovate better measures and guidelines, thus improving quality and standards.
Judge with humanity, tenderness, and understanding.
Judge to your heart’s content.
You will, anyway 🙂